We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ so often at the moment of year – but rarely do we think about what it really means to us, and also the individuals to whom we say it.
Many of us are unique people who have our personal unique needs and desires; and most of us are united in our quest for the similar thing – to feel Happy New Year 2020 Wishes. Many of us are striving for this state of ‘happiness’; and yet many people are looking inside the wrong location for it – and settling for any temporary mood-enhancer in the form of alcohol, drugs, a whole new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are full of ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – almost all of which is just plain good sense! No one is the expert on you! Only you know – or are trying to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is another person’s burden.
In the event you now think about what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to having a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as it is observed in general society.
Happiness to suit your needs depends upon your personal amount of personal and spiritual awareness, and your capability to create happiness being a state of mind that you can go back to anytime – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is really not enough to simply ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself to be happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What many of us don’t realise is that we have two mind-sets about everything in life, and those two minds can be at odds with each other. This conflict can are the degrees of happiness our company is ‘allowed’ to enjoy.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; but when our sub-conscious mind doesn’t think that we deserve it, or we would reap the benefits of it – then it just isn’t likely to come our way. Our outer lives are just ever a reflection of our inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies do not access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – along with the exact opposite. This is referred to as ‘Emotional Contagion’ – and it is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves hand out that subsequently affects those around us.
We now have neurons in our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion that we are witnessing away from us. As an example whenever we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, our company is instinctively programmed to feel something similar. This connection surpasses mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of similar things having happened to us previously. We are significantly afflicted with being around Merry Christmas, whose emotions we then ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled by way of a ‘happy mask’ that someone may wear; which will be a false-self they present around the world being an try to hide their real feelings and needs. This may well happen to be set up in childhood in the event it was encouraged and expected they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for your family’s sake; and to stuff down their real feelings including anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – which had been real, but ‘unacceptable’ through the family/care-giver.
So many people are so accustomed to wearing a mask that they cannot imagine an existence without it, or how to get them back! Their eyes will most likely offer the game away concerning their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if another person is sensitive enough to see these ‘slips’.
We all have a ‘base-line’ amount of happiness at any stage inside our lives – which is formed from our past experiences and also the meaning we gave in their mind; and naturally the effects these have had upon our sub-conscious mind and also the ‘program’ our company is running.
This base-line represents only 40% in the full amount of happiness we are capable of experiencing on the present time. A further 10% can range from external ‘lucky’ events like the lottery win; or perhaps a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic plastic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary and we soon go back to our base level once more.
The good news though would be that the remaining 40% of happiness open to you – is derived from YOU! This is scientifically validated and forms a central part of Positive Psychology.
There are 12 methods for facilitating more happiness from your own actions and thoughts, and also by the releasing your very own blockages. Some of these ways include finding out how to create a more optimistic and focused method of life; to keep your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness into your life. These sound simple but in fact are profound and life-changing. Enhancing your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell within your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and therefore your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to a calmness from the mind… observing what is, rather than forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; instead of worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To view the Happy New Year 2020 Sms in every single tiny moment rather than only focusing ahead of the present time; or dwelling within the unchangeable past. The only real time you truly have is this moment and also the next breath. Get the most from these whilst you still need them.